Communication preferences are about how you like to receive and share information. Social interaction is how you connect and talk with other people. Your preferences can change depending on who you’re talking to. Everyone communicates differently and all styles are valid.
Think about what works best for you:
- Do you prefer talking face-to-face?
- Are voice notes or video calls easier?
- Do you like texting or emailing instead?
- Do pictures or visuals help you understand things better?
- If you like creating ideas visually, mind maps can be a great tool.
It may help if others support your communication style by:
- speaking clearly and using simple language
- checking you’ve understood what they mean
- giving you extra time to process information
- using a friendly tone
- providing written notes or visuals.
You could even write down what you wish your teacher knew about how you communicate.
Your environment matters too. If a place is too loud, bright, or busy, it can make communication harder. Notice which spaces feel comfortable for you. When socialising, you might prefer one-to-one chats or group activities like sports or gaming clubs. Social time can be tiring, so think about what drains your energy and what recharges it, that’s your ‘social battery’.
Sometimes, understanding others can be tricky. You might feel left out or find friendships hard to maintain. At times you may feel rejection and it may be difficult to make and maintain friendships. Joining groups that match your interests can make it easier to meet people who ‘get’ you.
If you’re not sure what your communication preferences are, talk to a trusted adult.
Useful resources
- Love on the Autism Spectrum – A Guide: Neurotypical vs Neurodivergent Communication
- Neuroinclusive Communication Guide by the University of Oxford
- Act on it now – Help for teens and young people on relationships
- Young Minds - Friendships
- Teen Talk - Relationships: Friendships Edition
- Teens Talk Relationships: Dating
- Teens Talk Relationships: Trusted Adults Edition
- They are the future – Friendship and Me – Teen workbook
- Mental Health Foundation – Healthy Relationships
- Additional support can also be found on the Kent Resilience Hub.