Being open with your partner, family or friends about how you’re feeling is important. You are probably both feeling overwhelmed and tired. Being there for each other and each allowing the other to have a break, even if it’s to have a bath or shower is important.
Try connecting with other dads or partners. You can support each other and realise that everyone struggles with a new baby.
If you have feelings that are making day-to-day life difficult and or disrupting your relationship with your baby and partner, or if intrusive memories of the birth are distressing and effecting you, reach out for support. You’re not alone or weak. There are support services that can help; we just need to know firstly that you are not feeling ok. You can find information for your mental health at MIND.
If you are struggling with memories or flashbacks around the birth, Make Birth Better have some useful information for partners around the support and interventions available.
Your GP or health visitor can listen to how you are feeling and sign post you to more support.